I recently found a list I made in high school titled “What I want in a guy.” The date on it is 2003 — either my junior or senior year. I remember my friends making fun of me for it, then making lists of their own. None of them even came close to my list, though; 210 things is hard to top.
The first thing on my list was “strong relationship with God/Christian.” Others included “doesn’t criticize my driving” and “can match clothes.” Here’s a peek at what I wanted in a male counterpart 10 years ago:
#2. Respects me, my family and my friends.
#5. Strong — mentally and physically (nice muscles never hurt).
#8. Likes dogs.
#10. Doesn’t smoke.
#13. Not obsessed with fake women, such as Britney Spears, Pamela Anderson, or any other diva, pop star, Baywatcher, or pin-up.
#20. Looks in my eyes, not up, down, or away.
#22. Brushes teeth on a regular basis.
#25. Doesn’t rush me. Patience is everything.
#27. Picks out his own mother’s cards.
#33. Rides roller coasters.
#35. Never tells me I look bad, fat, rough, dirty, or any other unacceptable adjective.
#46. Doesn’t tell stupid jokes to the point I can’t even pretend laugh.
#47. Has goals and perseverance.
#48. Encourages and supports me.
#51. Not constantly on a computer.
#63. Laughs well — not loud, breathy, gaspy, silent, through the nose, high-pitched, or too long.
#65. My height or taller.
#67. Has nice hands — not rough or feminine.
#70. Doesn’t need an umbrella.
#71. Doesn’t go to strip clubs or Hooters — even “for the wings.”
#76. Doesn’t always call for a reason, but always has something to say.
#78. Never says, “I didn’t mean to lead you on,” especially when he knew perfectly well what he was doing.
#82. Has good taste in music — no screaming songs.
#101. Thinks of more unique dates than dinner and a movie.
#106. Likes color.
#109. Puts the dishes in the sink, not on the counter beside the sink. The dishwasher is better.
#112. Likes to travel.
#113. Loves life and takes pleasure in the small things.
#117. Makes me a better person; good influence.
#127. Has decent feet.
#128. Wears sunscreen, and doesn’t go to a tanning bed.
#157. Remembers Valentine’s Day and my birthday.
#159. Open-minded and has own opinions, but doesn’t force them on others.
#161. Doesn’t leave shaving cream/hair/toothpaste in the sink/bathtub.
#167. Prays often.
#180. Knows what he’s worth; confidence.
#181. No dandruff.
#190. No weird diseases or hereditary dysfunctions.
#196. Doesn’t leave bugs in the floor after he kills them.
#197. Runs nice.
#203. Not a previous criminal.
#209. Can manage money.
#210. Has a plan.
I came across this list shortly after Pete and I got married and he asked me how he stacks up to The List. I have to say, he meets most of them, like #69. Looks great in a baseball hat, and #148. Knows about cars. … Not #36, though; “has nice handwriting.” But I love him anyway.
Other things I noticed is that it took me until #129 to list “smart,” and that my taste in some things has definitely changed since ’03. Like #162. No beard or mustache. … I was the one who told Pete not to shave before our wedding.
While my list is a tall order for anyone to fill, my favorite is #192. Not too picky.